If you are one of the many many many people who have a fear of public speaking or even being social, you can take a big exhale!
You can be a fearless speaker!
Lets take a look at unraveling fear from these too perspectives:
1- What if fear is only an association from a past experience or a projection of a future possibility?
The past has given us many experiences, some fun some not so fun. Either way, would you be willing to start fresh giving the present moment a chance to offer a different possibility? In this present moment you have an opportunity to create something completely different. The key is not to bring your luggage of baggage into the present moment with you. Clear the slate. You can actually say to yourself, “I clear the slate and I am open to a new possibility”. This will help you get more present and allow you to shine in a whole new way. Once the ball and chain of fear is cut off of you there is a freedom of expression that bubbles up!
Projecting into a future possibility of failure works the same way. Clear the slate and get uber present.
2- What if fear is only an awareness of someone else’s discomfort?
Most of us are walking around like antenna for other people’s emotions and we are owning them as if they were our own. This may come as a surprise. I know it did for me, but everything you are feeling is not yours. WHAT?? You could be feeling someone else’s fear and discomfort when you are talking to them or someone in the audience.
Have you ever felt uncomfortable for someone when they were on stage? Have you ever had a point of view about being scared to be on stage while you were in someone’s audience? The speaker can pick up on these feelings and if you are the speaker, then you are the one picking up on these feelings. Skillful speakers will know the difference or will be so focused on their content they are not putting attention on the fear energy in the room.
What can you do? Imagine your focus is like a flashlight beam. Take the beam of light that you are shining on the energy of fear and focus it on your curiosity of your audience, your message and your excitement. Also, you can feel the fear outside of yourself and say to it, “Return to sender”. Again this takes the focus off the fear and if it is someone else it releases it away from you.
To be a fearless speaker may take some courage to try something new and to get super present letting go of past outcomes and of future possibilities.
One thing for sure is, to be a fearless speaker, you must get up there again and again, see what shows up and use some new tools and practices to release the fear and share your story!
You can do it!