3 Ways To Use Anger To Angle Your Potency

Anger seems to be a lost art! What I mean by that is so many professionals and healers have told us to not be angry. To breath thru your anger. To redirect it. To hit a pillow. However  the energy of anger is immense and it has a lot to offer us!

Today I want to tell you about 3 ways to use anger to angle your potency.

That means, yes you can get mad! You can yell.  You can have your feelings….And what would it take to have awareness around it.  Conscious anger is potent as heaven and hell together- because actually it is both. There is great awareness in Anger – that awareness is part of the divine, source energy. And there is great suffering in Anger – part of that hell realm we know very well because we have disconnected our thoughts and beliefs away from source energy- the source of all suffering.

So next time you get angry see if you can do these 3 things and use your anger to increase your potency and brilliance!!

1- Ask What is this?

2- What am I making important here?

3- Who am I being right now?


Each of these questions will give you information. Important information to bring subconscious belief systems to the surface so you can begin to access and change them.  The anger is the portal to more awareness.  What would it take to have appreciation for your anger?

Just yesterday I used these questions and it is changing our whole family dynamics.

I came up from my Reiki and Yoga Practice all happy and peaceful and was triggered by my son’s resistance to helping out with the house. I eventually got mad- really mad. It was such a contrast from where I just came from. I asked “what is this”  and “what am I making important here?” These questions were able  to lead me to some pretty deep beliefs I was running about my children.  This good information gave me a whole new approach to parenting and to staying in alignment with my own happiness.  Our happiness is our true nature! Our deepest brilliance we can offer people.

Stay aligned with your happiness and you are one potent force!

So don’t push that anger away. Use it to angle your potency, to become more aware, to increase your consciousness, and to create new beliefs to deliberately create your life with!


All the best!




What Would it Take to Be Your Favorite Person?

I asked my self this Question today:

What would it take to be my favorite person?

It’s quite remarkable how a little question can open up a reservoir of awareness! I did not begin to have  a list of bullet points to write down, but rather it began to inform my behavior, my presence and my mindfulness.

I am in the business of being the best version of myself and I like to help people see the best version of themselves too thru songs and coaching. What I really love to see is when these best versions show up and are invited and consciously chosen, the self expression and the voice that is created is phenomenal!

And guess what?   When you become the best version of you, you become your favorite person.  Wow, what a really cool feeling!

Are you your favorite person?  If the answer is “no” then play with this question for a week: What would it take to be my favorite person? See what unfolds, shows up and becomes alive inside of you.  See what begins to get pruned. See what gets highlighted.  See what awakens in your voice.

Remember what Mahatma Gandhi said, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”  By becoming your favorite person, you get to be that change. you get to be seen and heard as an agent of change and consciousness in the world. What if transformation isn’t complex. What if it’s as simple as a question and an awareness? What if accessing your voice and expressing the best version of you begins with a question and a choice to implement it.  Start there and watch your brilliance unfold.

I would love to hear about your journey in the comments below!

If any other great questions come up would you be willing to share them with us! ?


All the best!


6 Steps For Moms To Release Guilt!

Moms, Release guilt and watch your life get way easier!

Motherhood can be challenging enough without being plagued with guilt. Don’t you think? But there are so many avenues for guilt to sneak up on us!

Feeling guilty for wanting to spend time with girlfriends or even our husband  over our children. Feeling guilty for wanting to travel without our children. Feeling guilty for working too much. Feeling guilty for yelling at our children. Feeling guilty for  not working enough. Feeling guilty for going to yoga class instead of their ballgame. Feeling guilty for missing a school concert. Oh the list can go on and on.

Take a minute and become aware of what happens to your body, your throat and your voice when you are in the energy of guilt?  Empowered full of possibility or tight and whiny?

Guilt distracts us from our greatness as moms, as change agents, as dreamers, as business women, as lovers as anything we desire most. Guilt is a huge distraction from not only accessing our voice, accessing our dreams and accessing the family life we desire but a distraction from our life!

Ready to let it go? Ready to feel empowered and dynamic in your life? Ready to open the floodgates of possibility in your life?

6 Steps for moms to release guilt! mom core belief access your voice

 1)   Become aware of where you feel guilty. Name some scenarios and get the feeling of it.

  2)  Now become aware of that sensation deeply. This information tells you that you want to feel better, right? Gives you information of
what you do want.

 3)  Ultimately you just want to feel better. The crux here is that feeling better is tied into a core belief around motherhood. If your core belief stays the same you will have to keep aligning with it and if you do not you will come back to guilt. Now you must choose. Do you keep the same core belief and always meet it or change the core belief and live with more possibility.

 4)  Dive into what you believe about motherhood, the judgements you have and what you defend or resist around motherhood.(taking a look at your points of view around mothers around you is a good way to discover some interesting things about your core beliefs around motherhood.) This dive will give you some good information about what your core beliefs are around mothering your children.

5) Did you discover the high expectations you are putting on yourself? Did you discover that these ideals may not pertain to you and your
family anymore. Did you discover that you may not want live in this rigid box any more? Did you discover that if you live by these beliefs, that you don’t have room for your self in the equation of your life?  So now rewrite your core beliefs as something that gives more room for you in your life, more empowerment to you and your children and offers more possibility in your life.

 6) Now read them everyday a lot until they feel true and real to you.


You may notice that after you do this exercise you will have more physical energy, feel lighter in your attitude and mood, have a more fluid voice and your dreams may take flight again. At least that is what I felt!


All the best!

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Vocal awareness For Easeful Parenting.

Vocal awareness equals more ease with parenting?


Vocal Awareness is being aware of what is happening with your voice at any given time of the day. There is information in the volume, the tone, the pitch and the quality of your voice that you can use to make some choices that will support you in your parenting.

Are you showing up for your children? 

Are you being present with them?

Are you getting the results from your children that work for you in your home?

Are you totally resourced and aligned with your true self while communicating with them? 

This is all in your voice and you can begin to listen to your voice with ears and awareness that will help you take a step back and ask questions like, “What is this? Who am I being? Is this working? ” 

When you can take a step back to ask these questions you will begin to become more aware of what is going on for you. For example, maybe you are asking your boys to clean up their dishes.  Notice the tone you are using. Are they hearing your?  Do you have overwhelm in your voice? Is your voice monotone? Is it loud? Does it have a nagging tone to it?  Is it working? Are your boys responding?

By becoming aware of where you are and what tone you are using, you open your self up to making a conscious choice of where to speak from.  If you notice that you have overwhelm in your voice and your boys are not responding, (because  really who wants to get near someone in over whelm) you then can tune in to you,  expand your energy by taking a deep breath and use a tone that would work better.

Our tone of voice can let us know if we are tired, annoyed, frustrated, scared, overwhelmed, bored, mad etc. The cool part about becoming aware of your voice is that you can then consciously pick a tone that will work for the situation but not make vital the feeling behind it.

For example, many boys respond more ease fully to a stern louder voice. What if you could be that potency with out feeling stern? It is just an aware choice. Most parenting experts agree that if you can be stern with out being invested in an emotion behind it, the children will see a more emotionally regulated adult and learn emotional health as a result.

As a parent your voice is powerful and it is that much more powerful if you become aware of what your voice is really saying and make conscious choices about how to use it.

Bottom line:  Vocal Awareness really does equal easeful parenting!