A Song a Day Keeps the Doctor Away

A song a day

Forego the apple and insert a SONG!   A song a day keeps the Doctor away!

Singing has so many unsung benefits. On top of these it also can give you so much information about whether you are comfortable in your own skin and trust yourself!

When I was in my early 20s there were many low moments. It was at this time that I was beginning to play the guitar and sing a long to what I was playing. I didn’t put two and two together for a long time but when I did, I began to realize after singing I always felt better. I always felt more present and able to let go of my past story and I’ve noticed thru the years that even though I hadn’t been running or climbing a mountain for exercise, my aerobic ability was high. Now I know why

Singing Helps:

  • Induce the body to produce oxytocin which helps reduce stress
  • Improve your cardiac rhythm reducing risk of heart disease
  • Train the stomach muscle
  • Strengthens your immunity by increasing the concentration of immunoglobulin A
  • You breath deeply and evenly promoting proper breathing
  • Produce endorphins the “happy hormone”

If you are a closet singer, have you noticed some of these benefits?

Research is also showing these benefits show up even more with group singing.  Do you a some friends to sing with?

Its pretty cool seeing the biology of how singing can contribute. However I’ve also noticed thru the  past 20 years of being a singer / songwriter /performer that it also has been a great barometer for helping me build awareness of where I am holding myself back, what is negatively effecting me and  where my body could use some assistance in releasing tightness.

So as you sing your song a day with or without a group enjoy the great physical benefits and while you do, begin to notice what thoughts are arising, where do  you feel a bit of resistant in your body or mind and could you show up even more for the song.

In my experience it has been helpful to have a journal near by because a lot seems to unfold, unleash and release… write it down. It is is great information for transformation!

A song a day keeps the doctor away.  Happy Singing!

 

Resources reviewed:

http://www.lifehack.org/293814/5-reasons-why-people-who-sing-are-happier-healthier-and-live-longer-regardless-how-well-they-sing

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12814197

http://ideas.time.com/2013/08/16/singing-changes-your-brain/

 

 

The Sound of Confidence

rebecca abraxas contact for performanceThere is a space of being that exudes trust in yourself and unconditional love. That space of being expresses itself as confidence and at ease in any situation.

Have you ever met some one like that?  Have you ever tried to mimic them? Maybe borrowed some of their positive phrases or ways of saying things. Maybe from listening to them so much you started speaking like them by default.

Today I want to look into this a bit further.

Everything is a vibration therefore everything is a sound, including confidence. What is the sound of CONFIDENCE?

Have you ever noticed the tone of voice that the confident person is speaking with?  Have you noticed it is a sound that you can listen to for hours?

What gives that person that sound?

I venture to say it is that something that gives them their WHY in life.  I say it is their connection to something greater that is guiding them on a divine mission. Stepping aside and letting something greater then yourself which is your bigger self that you are a part of ( I know a little strange) gives you a sense of ON PURPOSE  that changes the sound of your voice and the vibration you are giving to others. It is a vibration that is high and that others are craving to know.

Think of it like this. You are a drop of water that comes from the great sea. The drop of water has its mission then eventually goes back into the great source of water the sea.  If you had an ocean of support behind you would you have more confidence? If you knew there was a great place of refuse to fall back into would you have inhibitions? If you had a divine purpose would you care about the judgements that others had?

When you rest into the source of creation which you are a part of and which you are a part from there is a shift in vibration, there is a shift in sound, there is a shift of vocal expression, there is a shift in trusting your self.  This is the sound of true confidence and it is something people want  to be around because subconsciously they can feel and see them selves in you. The subconsciously know that they can be that too.

At least this is my point of view about it.

I would love to hear your comments

  • Rebecca

 

 

Stop Wasting Your Time at Networking Events

stop wasting your timeThe biggest reason for networking is to VOICE a clear message about what you do and to create a compelling presence so people will be inspired to refer you some business.  Take a moment to reflect. Are you accomplishing this?

I have had some interesting experiences at networking events lately.  What I noticed was at the end of the 30 – 60 second spiel people close with their name, their title and their companies tag line which is a great way to close. However, when they were doing their close their head was down, and they were beginning to sit down as they were speaking which made it hard to hear what they were saying. Not only was it hard to hear  it was also hard to receive energetically what they were conveying.

Lets talk about the voice first. You will be heard best when your body is in the “Open Flute” position. Meaning head up and posture straight. The open flute also has a sound hole so the sound can clearly be heard. For you this is your mouth. So when your mouth is open when you are speaking as opposed to somewhat closed lips with your head down your words and your message will be heard more clearly. When the head and chin are tilted down as you bend your body to sit down, you are compromising the ability for the body to produce an effective sound for your important message.  Let your voice be heard with a straight posture and a open mouth. This will help you communicate a clear vocal message.

Now let’s go to the body language. When you are giving your message while beginning to sit down with your head tilted down you are conveying a message of, “I don’t want to be seen”.  Other messages I got from witnessing this body language were, “I’m full I don’t want any more business and /or I am not confident with what I am doing”.  “I go thru the actions but I’m not into what I do.”   Is this what you want to be conveying to potential referrals? I didn’t thinks so.   So when you are closing your 30 -60 sec. spiel stand tall and embody your business, look around and make eye contact and pause when you are done to be seen.

Networking events take time out of your day. Make sure you are making the most of them by using a voice and a presence that is helping people “get” you and your services you offer.  Do not waste your time with a mumbled message and a body language that is deterring people from your business.

If you find it hard to be seen and heard and do the things I am suggesting here, I can help!  I can do Vocal Empowerment sessions in person or on the phone.

All the best at your next Networking event!!

Rebecca Abraxas, Vocal Empowerment Coach/ Personal Paradigm Shifter

 

3 Quick Vocal Warm Ups for Presenting with Ease

3 quick vocal warm up to present with ease

 

 

Have you ever presented a talk with a shy voice where you hardly moved your lips while speaking? Have you gone to speak at your event and your voice was gritty or shaky? After you pressed record for your video blog, did you notice you had to clear your voice or maybe cough to get a clear sound? 

Don’t start your important message with a cold voice! Warm her up.

Here are 3 quick vocal warm ups for presenting with ease!

  1. Tongue Twisters
  2. Diaphragm pops
  3. The M’s 

 

 

Tongue twisters are a fun and effective way to warm up your whole lip and mouth area for fuller expression with speaking! Your pronunciation will be brought to a new level too with these tongue twisters so the consonants you are speaking get articulated and heard. Try saying these 4 tongue twisters 5-10 times before your event.

1- Black bugs blood is blue

2- Unique New York 

3- Wayne went to Wales to watch walruses.

4- A proper cup of coffee from a proper copper coffee pot.

 

Diaphragm pops are warming up with words that contract the diaphragm muscle which is your main breathing muscle that sits right along the bottom of the rib cage.  Getting the diaphragm enlivened and ready for action with  fuller breaths to support longer bouts of talking, will give you a smooth approach and your listeners will find your speaking more easeful to listen to.

The consonants to play with are P, D, & Sh

say words like “Pop”  “Dirty Dog” and “Shush”   – say these normally, then say them with a “staccato” approach, quick and short.

 

The M’s are to get your vocal chords moving with the breath as well as create awareness of  the 4 resonant chambers  so you have a nice even quality to your voice and your audience will want to listen to your words.

Say:  Ma, Me, Mi, Mo, Moo   

First say these M’s so that your chest vibrates, then say it like the words were marbles in your mouth and you were trying not to let them fall out, thirdly, say them like you were the wicked witch of the west with a nasal tone, finally, turn into Glenda the good witch and say the words in an upper fairy head voice way.

Give these 3 quick vocal warm ups a try for presenting with ease and see if your voice has more presence, articulation and expression for your important message!

All the best!

Transform Your Self With Your Voice

 Transform your Self with your voiceThe voice is used to speak language, to sing, to express emotions, to chant, to scream and, yes, it can also be used to transform your self.

Jill Purce, one of the leading pioneers in researching the effects of sound and voice on matter said, ” Sound is an incredibly powerful force…there were ways of using the voice which were the easiest ways of transforming and becoming clear, entering a state of clarity and emptiness and being present.”  She also has mentioned that the Tibetan Monks view the a human being as body, mind voice, voice being that which coordinates the body and mind.

Many past cultures have used vocal chanting and singing to transform and to actualize their realities. Sadly, we have lost that practice in today’s modern culture. Many professionals in our modern cultures today may find using the voice to sing or chant somewhat of a “woo woo” practice. However, with the studies of sound therapy, cymatics, and vibroacoustical therapy, we may begin to see the value of using our voices to transform the resistance, the blocks and  the stuckness in our careers, dream launching and relationships.

Your voice has a healing vibration:

Your voice is a wave of vibration. When you use your voice, you not only hear and receive that vibration with your ears but you also receive that vibration on the inside as well. Very powerful since the rest of your cells are vibrating as well. The sounds you marinate yourself in effect the vibration of the cells.

What vibrational impact might your voice have on your body if your mind was continually participating in judgmental thoughts?  If you thought those thoughts for years and years what symptoms might your body give you to tell you something is not jiving with it?

You have the ability to use voice and sound to transform not only your body but the limiting belief systems that are creating your reality as well. You have the ability to use your voice to sound out vowels over and over again to reset some of the frequencies that are creating things you don’t desire.

Would you like to change your discomfort or fear of being seen and heard? Would you like to trust yourself, have confidence and speak dynamically? Would you like to be an uplifter?  Would you like to contribute to the world in an amazing way?

I believe you can.

Thru using your voice to tone and chant you can begin to get back in tune with your authentic vibration. The vibration that is in tune with nature and source energy. From there not only with your voice transform but also your life. Your voice truly is your power.

For more information using your voice to transform your self,  your career and your life

I invite you to join me for a FREE intro call.

All the best!

Now go out there and sing OM for the next 20 min!

Rebecca

 

7 Affirmations To Free Your VOICE

free your voice blog bannerWe may not think much of our voice until we have to get up and do a presentation, or get on camera or sing a song. However, each moment our voice has a lot to say.

Your voice can be a window to your soul.  

 

When your voice is free I venture to say you are feeling more free inside to be your true self. When your voice is free you have a confidence and ease with showing up and being heard. At least this is what I have experienced.   Thru the years here are some affirmations I have used to stay open with my voice when I have been on stage.     May these 7 affirmations to free your voice be a contribution to you!  Your Brilliance can change the world!

  1. My VOICE is my Power
  2. I am being sung by source energy
  3. I expand my energy and let go of judgments
  4. If I can breath, I can talk, If I can talk I can sing
  5. My voice is a unique contribution to the world 
  6. My body is open and free to express my voice
  7. I trust the brilliance that comes thru my voice 

How to use these affirmations:

1-First Aid: When you find yourself feeling self conscious or uncomfortable -contracted in your body and inhibited yet your still aware of  a “green light” energy of “go do this”, pick one of these affirmations to use or several. Use them on the spot!

2-Personal practice: If you are aware of a specific pattern that shows up you can pick the affirmation that lights you up and say it as a mantra practice morning and night. Say it 10-30 times at a sitting. (or in the car, this is were I get a lot of my transformational practice done LOL)  This will help you rewire your experience with using your voice.

With these affirmations under your belt you will begin to find more ease with your video blogs, speaking in a room full of people, making a presentation or even with speaking to your children.

I love questions. IF you have any let me know in the comments!

 

Could you use more help with freeing your voice?  I offer Vocal empowerment sessions that are a deep transformational journey of self discovery to free your voice I would love to support you!

  • All the best

Rebecca

 

3 Reasons Why Shy and Inhibited Women Will Never Speak Up

Get yourself heardAre you a shy and inhibited woman ready to GET YOUR VOICE HEARD  in the world?

What do you do when you have a powerful message to give but are too inhibited or shy to share it?

Is it time for you to shine and be heard?

I literally was the queen of shyness. In 8th grade I actually got “shyest” in the year book.  In school I would sit in the front row so no one could look back at me when I was called on and JUDGE ME.   When I was called on, omg, I would go into an anxiety attach and my voice would be hared to hear and crackly.  NOT FUN!!

Then something shifted sophomore year in high school.  My love for singing (in the SAFE  privacy of my room) over came my fear of rejection and my fear of failure. I tried out for the chorus in the school play.  Do you know what?   I GOT CALLED BACK AND THE PRINCIPAL OF THE SCHOOL SAID,

” Rebecca we had no idea you had such a big voice inside of you!”

What big voice do you have inside of YOU??

If you are shy and inhibited these are the 3 reasons you will never speak up:

  1. People pleaser
  2. Fear of rejection
  3. Fear of failure

The good news is I have a practice that will eradicate these three things and you can have more of a voice in your world!

I dare you to look in the mirror and say, “I love you no matter what” , 5-10 times, 3 times a day, for 30 days!

If you give a practice 30 days it starts to become a habit! You can replace the negative programing from above with something that will create more possibility for your self expression!

Rewiring ourselves with unconditional love helps us take chances and see life as a fun experiment. If we make a mistake its just a fun experiment rather then a failure that keeps us from being loved.

Rewiring ourselves with unconditional love helps us project into the world that other people function from unconditional love too. Rejection can not live in a world of unconditional love!

Rewiring ourselves with unconditional love helps us tune into ourselves more. We begin to put ourselves into the equation of our lives and  fill our cup up first. Then from there we contribute to others and rather then trying to please people to be accepted or loved and giving up ourselves, we contribute from a full cup of brilliance and expression.

So I triple dog dare you to say ” I love you no matter what” and see what happens!  Begin to notice your voice opening up and notice courage you gain to share your message more often.

 

All the best!!!

https://youtu.be/o8dpow2RINM

Your Losing Your Voice with Your Addiction To Tragedy!

 

Whether your voice is flowing ease fully or it is locked up and tongue tied it is a reflection of where you are putting your POINT OF FOCUS.

I was reminded of that today as I was dropping my son off to his 5 day spring camping trip 4 hours away from me. I noticed I was focusing on missing him and his safety.  Not feeling that great I began to take my morning stroll on FB and began seeing all these tragic stories of cancer and fatal car crashes. I began to spiral down and get even more tense around leaving my son.  I continued to look on FB offering prayers to the people involved in the tragedies and noticed I began to look for more tragedies to align with my point of focus. Agh. Reading or watching other people’s tragedies can be an addiction that is wrapped up in aligning with our own negative point of focus … This has everything to do with losing your VOICE!

What I noticed in my voice was that I felt like I had a tightening in my throat and that I didn’t want to speak. 

While sending prayers or positive thoughts are a kind gesture and can be a contribution to people in troubled times, we must offer them without the expense of our own vibrational wellbeing or at the expense of having our brilliancy seen and heard.  Our vibrational wellbeing has a direct link to our physical body which is our vocal instrument.

If you find yourself loosing your voice, unable to communicate, feeling shy to sing or speak, tune into your mood, your feelings and the thoughts you are marinating in. Tune into  whether you are coming across people’s hardships over and over again. Where is your point of focus? Is that point of focus helping you feel open, light, trusting life and expressive or contracted, shut down, negative, shy, unsure and inhibited?

It is not what is happening around you or in your life that will keep you in a brilliant and positive expression but your Point Of Focus! 

There are two components in life that can help us gain a positive Point Of Focus to keep our voices open and free to express ourselves.

  1. FAITH
  2. LETTING GO

Faith is the ability to trust the bigger picture. Faith is the ability to trust that the “tragedy” around us is a creation in life that has some contribution even though we may not know it yet. Faith can give us relief that everything is going to be ok and that on some level everything is as it seems and nothing is as it seems.  In my life faith in the unseen world helps me keep a positive point of focus so that my body, mind and spirit stay present in what I can be, know or do to be a contribution in my day. Your voice and brilliant expression has a lot to do with that contribution.

Letting go is essential in life and it is pivotal to gaining a strong voice and brilliant expression. Surrendering to the mystery helps you let go and move on with your greatest contribution to the day. The only contribution holding on to the tragedies you have witnessed or the negative feelings that have arose in you offer is a strong contrast to reach for something that feels better. Wanting to feel better, whether it’s wanting to get expressed and have a strong voice or whether it is to get out of a depressed slump takes a letting go and reaching for a better feeling thought.  Thoughts of appreciation can help you begin the letting go process in a potent way!

All this being said… This morning as I drove back home after dropping my son off I began to muster up some faith in his awareness and the choices he would make and I began to let go.   I’m feeling a lot better now and my throat is beginning to release.

Where is your Point Of Focus today? What do you feel in your throat and the rest of your body?  

What is blocking your full brilliant expression today? 

Have faith and let go, no go contribute to the day the only way your unique YOU can!

Cheers!

 

 

BLAST Stress AWAY

Stress can really get us in a state that at first feels enlivening and exciting.  It’s is that fight or flight response the body goes thru when it needs to “fight off a lion”.  However, left as a default mode, it can not only wreak havoc on our physical body with symptoms such as not being able to sleep,  exhaustion, edginess, unwanted belly fat,  poor digestion so on and so forth, it can also wreak havoc on our self esteem and our ability to “shine bright”.   We can begin to get down on ourselves and depression can set in.

Today I want to share with you a fun way to BLAST STRESS AWAY!

The trick to keeping the fight or flight response balanced in the body is to keep the energy in the body flowing like an even steam. You can do this with your perceptions around what is happening in your life  and you can do this with SOUND!

Lets talk about sound today!

There is a phenomena in the SOUND HEALING  world where you find out the sound of the disfunction in cells, play it back and help them implode and get destroyed. What if we could do that to the build up of energy in our body with stress.  I have been doing this myself as well as with clients and it seems to do a great job in BLASTING STRESS AWAY. 

So this is what you do:

  1. Find a quiet place to “tune in” to you.
    blast away stress

    say goodbye to stress

  2. Then start to feel where there is tension or a heaviness in your body
  3. From there pay attention to that area. As you tune in become aware of the color in that area (if it had a color what color would it be)
  4. Now once you have tuned into the tension and the color begin to see if it has a sound. It may be a groan, a vowel sound or a weird indescribable sound
  5. Would you be willing to give the tension energy a voice without judging the sound that comes out?
  6. Keep making the sound until it begins to shift or soften
  7. Then go to the next sound you that comes up…. and the next

Once you get the hang of this, it is a really easy way to release tension from your perception of stress. I do it in the car, I do it when I’m doing my social networking, in the shower, on my walks. It is a really mobile effective and pragmatic practice to keep your lifeforce energy flowing with ease. When  that lifeforce energy is flowing with ease, the body’s signal for  the “flight or flight” response does not activate and you will not have the cascade effect of the stress response in the body that after a while can really wreak havoc on your sense of wellbeing.

Guess what this means?

You will feel really good. You will have a sense of ease and trust in yourself. You will have the ability to shine bright your true nature that is attractive and sexy in everybody!!

Sing your stress song then go shine bright!!!

Enjoy!

 

Rebecca

 

5 To Do’s To Be a Dynamic Diva At Networking Events

Let’s be honest, if you are growing your small business, networking events are a MUST.

NOT GOING IS NOT AN OPTION!

However,

Did you ever walk into a networking event with “AGH” on your mind?
Did you ever feel like you were becoming invisible the longer you stayed at an event?
Did your tongue ever take a stubborn hiatus when you needed it most at a networking event?

I’ve been there too AND I’ve gotten myself out of there … not the event but that awkward situation.

The solution is?  Get good at being there. Get comfortable. Become a dynamic DIVA so that you crave going!

So here are 5 To Do’s to be a DYNAMIC DIVA at a networking event:

  1. Choose to be there
  2. Walk In with an “Attitude of Gratitude”
  3. Expand your energy
  4. Return to Sender
  5. Pull Energy

 

Choose to be there – This choice is important and it happens before you even step into the room. Making the choice requires you to TUNE IN to the energy. Ask yourself, “Does it feel LIGHT to go to this event? Will it be a contribution to my business?”  When you ask these questions you will get an awareness if it is a YES or a NO. If it shows up as a YES then CHOOSE IT FULLY. Let that fear turn into excitement, put your party dress on and GO!

Walk in with an Attitude of Gratitude – This is really important because when you are in an ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE you can not be in judgment or fear (two things that can really trip us up at networking events).  Have gratitude for the event. Have gratitude for a night out. Have gratitude for the cool shoes that the woman is wearing next to you.  Have gratitude for anything and everything. This will keep your monkey mind from turning on the self sabotaging scripts that make you want to find the nearest red exit light.

Expand your energy– Many times you may have a sensation that you are invisible or shrinking. You may feel like everyone’s energy is consuming you. When this happens, intentionally expand yourself back out. If it helps imagine you have on a flying squirrel suite. Do you know what they look like when they are catching air? Imagine your energy around your body doing that but make your suit 10x bigger.  The unseen world is very responsive to your intensions!

Return to sender – Chances are you are not feeling just your own discomfort, you are feeling everyones in the room. So get a base line so you only have to work with yours.  Ask the question, “Who does this awkwardness, fear, discomfort (what ever it is for you) belong to?”   Just this question may lighten things up for you. Then you can say to yourself, “Return to sender Consciously”. This helps you not be a sponge for every mood and emotion in the room so you can express more of you. Anyone an empath here? Do you know what I’m talking about?

Pull energy – Pulling energy is a fun way to manage the social energy in the room. It helps to get you noticed.  Simply have the intention to pull energy thru everyone to you. Then trickle a little bit of energy back out. This will begin to get the room’s energy focused in your direction. You may notice that someone “out of the blue” comes to talk to you and then another.  Again the unseen world is quite receptive to our requests. It may seem like the opposite of what I am saying above but this works differently. Experiment and see what you notice. You can always reverse it or expand back out.

 

“Two roads diverged in a wood and I – I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference”. Robert Frost                                    These To Do’s are not typical. They may be outright strange. They may be the “road less traveled”. However,  they have made all the difference for me.   Go have some fun at your next networking event. View it as an experiment!    These 5 To Do’s WORK!  I know because I use them ALL THE TIME!

Cheers to YOU – You Dynamic Diva YOU!

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All the best!!

Rebecca