Vocal awareness equals more ease with parenting?
Vocal Awareness is being aware of what is happening with your voice at any given time of the day. There is information in the volume, the tone, the pitch and the quality of your voice that you can use to make some choices that will support you in your parenting.
Are you showing up for your children?
Are you being present with them?
Are you getting the results from your children that work for you in your home?
Are you totally resourced and aligned with your true self while communicating with them?
This is all in your voice and you can begin to listen to your voice with ears and awareness that will help you take a step back and ask questions like, “What is this? Who am I being? Is this working? ”
When you can take a step back to ask these questions you will begin to become more aware of what is going on for you. For example, maybe you are asking your boys to clean up their dishes. Notice the tone you are using. Are they hearing your? Do you have overwhelm in your voice? Is your voice monotone? Is it loud? Does it have a nagging tone to it? Is it working? Are your boys responding?
By becoming aware of where you are and what tone you are using, you open your self up to making a conscious choice of where to speak from. If you notice that you have overwhelm in your voice and your boys are not responding, (because really who wants to get near someone in over whelm) you then can tune in to you, expand your energy by taking a deep breath and use a tone that would work better.
Our tone of voice can let us know if we are tired, annoyed, frustrated, scared, overwhelmed, bored, mad etc. The cool part about becoming aware of your voice is that you can then consciously pick a tone that will work for the situation but not make vital the feeling behind it.
For example, many boys respond more ease fully to a stern louder voice. What if you could be that potency with out feeling stern? It is just an aware choice. Most parenting experts agree that if you can be stern with out being invested in an emotion behind it, the children will see a more emotionally regulated adult and learn emotional health as a result.
As a parent your voice is powerful and it is that much more powerful if you become aware of what your voice is really saying and make conscious choices about how to use it.
Bottom line: Vocal Awareness really does equal easeful parenting!