Motherhood can be challenging enough without being plagued by guilt.

Do you feel guilty for wanting to spend time with girlfriends or wanting to travel without your children? Do you feel guilty for working too much or too little? Are you feeling guilty for yelling at your children? Do you feel guilty for going to a yoga class instead of your kid’s ballgame or concert?  Take a minute and become aware of what happens in your body when you are in the energy of guilt?  Are you empowered or do you feel defeated?

Guilt distracts us from our greatness as moms, as change agents, as dreamers, as business women and as lovers. Are you ready to let it go? These 6 steps below can help you find where guilt is draining you of energy.

If you have a strict belief system of what makes a good mother that is challenging to live by, then each time you live outside of those beliefs guilt will strike. The contraction of guilt in your body actually blocks your energy.   A lot of times these old beliefs have come from past messaging from how you were parented. Sometimes beliefs come from messaging through media and books. Where ever they came from, if you are feeling guilty as a mom most likely you are exhausted.  It is time to update the system so your life works for you.

 

6 Steps for moms to release guilt! 

 1)   Become aware of when you feel guilty. Name some scenarios.

  2)  Notice what thoughts are associated with your emotion of guilt.

 3)  Name 3 core beliefs you have around motherhood.  For example, “A good mother makes homemade food.”

 4)  Are your core beliefs still true for you?  Do you want to edit and update them?

5) Write 3 new core beliefs that give you the freedom to be you in your life with your children.

 6) Now read them everyday until they feel real and true to you.

You may notice that after you do this exercise you may have more physical energy. You may feel lighter in your attitude and mood. You could even notice a more fluid voice and your dreams may take flight again. Removing a guilty conscience removes a negative block from your energy body so your life force energy can move freely again. A guilty conscience is only present when you can’t live up to the judgments you have placed on yourself.

Using Reiki to eliminate guilt

Sometimes our programming runs deep. Belief systems can run through generations of mothers. If the 6 steps above are challenging for you or you have done them and you still feel guilty, then perhaps Reiki can help.

Reiki is a Japanese energy healing technique. It is done by yourself in a personal practice or by a Reiki practitioner to you.  Who ever is doing the Reiki has received the Reiki energy from a Master Teacher. Receiving Reiki helps one reset subconscious conditioning that may not be shifting from mental or conscious efforts. Reiki assists in getting your lifeforce energy flowing fluidly again. It helps one let go of negative personality traits and negative emotional reactions. Letting go of self judgment and growing in compassion and patience are also attributes that many people have experienced with Reiki.

As a mother there is a lot of pressure to get it right especially in this modern culture of social media. We are subjected to a lot of people witnessing and judging what we do and say.  Perhaps the deepest relief we can find is from releasing our self judgement,  forgiving ourselves and loving ourselves unconditionally. Maybe these are the only parenting skills we require.