Are you starting to feel the urge?
Are you beginning to feel the pull?
Is your fear becoming more obsolete?
Are you ready to put on your Wonder Woman Boots and speak your message?
There is a sensation I am very familiar with. That sensation is feeling like I am a super hero inside, yet only expressing a small small part of that bigness. Can you relate? I felt it a long time ago as a kid and the contrast created a lot of illness and discomfort in my body! NOT FUN!!
If you are feeling a potential energy in yourself, what would it take to be all of that? What would it take to let it be expressed.
Not only may you begin to feel better in your body and mind but you will begin to shape your reality in a direction you want to see it.
I feel like this blog is timely in that our uniqueness and our differences are what is required on the planet right now to grow the equality and allowance on the planet. Your VOICE MUST BE HEARD IN ALL IT’S AUTHENTICITY AND UNIQUENESS!!
Your Wonder Woman Boots waiting. No one can wear them like you can. No one can say the message you are burning to share like you can, even if it is a similar message to someone else’s
What would happen if you put them on and walked out in public with them?
You may get ridiculed, laughed at, judged and mocked and you may get celebrated, adored, thanked and honored. Either way, you win, because you released some of the contrasting energy between your inner and outworld. You win because you faced your fear. You win because you released the pressure of the contrast in your life and now you can expand to the next contrasting moment in you life to work thru and expand and so on and so forth. Life is ever expanding. When you are not willing to expand with it, you begin to feel awful. You begin to get sick and depressed.
Tool box time:
A little tool you can remember to help you get those boots on and face the fear so you can speak your message anyway is the “Sacred Cross”
-Ground your feet into the earth – feel her support, Open your crown to the heavens – feel the support from life force above and all around, Lengthen your right arm tuning into all that makes you unique – feel the strength of you, Lengthen your left arm and remember all the skills you have acquired, all the experiences you have collected- feel the support from all of it. Feel the support and let the fear go
Another little tool you can remember is to drain all the fear energy out of your mind by “Interesting Point of View”
-Whenever a judgmental thought (for self or other) comes to your mind, simply say to your self, “Interesting point of view I have this point of view”. And whenever you become aware of someone else’s judgements simply say to your self, “Interesting point of view they have that point of you”. This will take the wind right out o the sail of that judgmental thought!
Are you ready to put on your Wonder Woman boots? Are you ready to voice your message from the mountain tops? Does it feel like yours to do? I’m hear to say …
YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOOSE ONLY SOMETHING TO GAIN AND IF YOU NEED SUPPORT ASK FOR IT, CHOOSE IT!
FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY! THAT FEAR COULD BE DISGUISING A LOT OF EXCITEMENT!
All the best,
Voice Your Brilliance
Forego the apple and insert a SONG! A song a day keeps the Doctor away!
Singing has so many unsung benefits. On top of these it also can give you so much information about whether you are comfortable in your own skin and trust yourself!
When I was in my early 20s there were many low moments. It was at this time that I was beginning to play the guitar and sing a long to what I was playing. I didn’t put two and two together for a long time but when I did, I began to realize after singing I always felt better. I always felt more present and able to let go of my past story and I’ve noticed thru the years that even though I hadn’t been running or climbing a mountain for exercise, my aerobic ability was high. Now I know why
- Induce the body to produce oxytocin which helps reduce stress
- Improve your cardiac rhythm reducing risk of heart disease
- Train the stomach muscle
- Strengthens your immunity by increasing the concentration of immunoglobulin A
- You breath deeply and evenly promoting proper breathing
- Produce endorphins the “happy hormone”
If you are a closet singer, have you noticed some of these benefits?
Research is also showing these benefits show up even more with group singing. Do you a some friends to sing with?
Its pretty cool seeing the biology of how singing can contribute. However I’ve also noticed thru the past 20 years of being a singer / songwriter /performer that it also has been a great barometer for helping me build awareness of where I am holding myself back, what is negatively effecting me and where my body could use some assistance in releasing tightness.
So as you sing your song a day with or without a group enjoy the great physical benefits and while you do, begin to notice what thoughts are arising, where do you feel a bit of resistant in your body or mind and could you show up even more for the song.
In my experience it has been helpful to have a journal near by because a lot seems to unfold, unleash and release… write it down. It is is great information for transformation!
A song a day keeps the doctor away. Happy Singing!
Have you ever presented a talk with a shy voice where you hardly moved your lips while speaking? Have you gone to speak at your event and your voice was gritty or shaky? After you pressed record for your video blog, did you notice you had to clear your voice or maybe cough to get a clear sound?
Don’t start your important message with a cold voice! Warm her up.
Here are 3 quick vocal warm ups for presenting with ease!
- Tongue Twisters
- Diaphragm pops
- The M’s
Tongue twisters are a fun and effective way to warm up your whole lip and mouth area for fuller expression with speaking! Your pronunciation will be brought to a new level too with these tongue twisters so the consonants you are speaking get articulated and heard. Try saying these 4 tongue twisters 5-10 times before your event.
1- Black bugs blood is blue
2- Unique New York
3- Wayne went to Wales to watch walruses.
4- A proper cup of coffee from a proper copper coffee pot.
Diaphragm pops are warming up with words that contract the diaphragm muscle which is your main breathing muscle that sits right along the bottom of the rib cage. Getting the diaphragm enlivened and ready for action with fuller breaths to support longer bouts of talking, will give you a smooth approach and your listeners will find your speaking more easeful to listen to.
The consonants to play with are P, D, & Sh
say words like “Pop” “Dirty Dog” and “Shush” – say these normally, then say them with a “staccato” approach, quick and short.
The M’s are to get your vocal chords moving with the breath as well as create awareness of the 4 resonant chambers so you have a nice even quality to your voice and your audience will want to listen to your words.
Say: Ma, Me, Mi, Mo, Moo
First say these M’s so that your chest vibrates, then say it like the words were marbles in your mouth and you were trying not to let them fall out, thirdly, say them like you were the wicked witch of the west with a nasal tone, finally, turn into Glenda the good witch and say the words in an upper fairy head voice way.
Give these 3 quick vocal warm ups a try for presenting with ease and see if your voice has more presence, articulation and expression for your important message!
All the best!
Use Grievances To Open The Voice
This is where you can use grievances to open the voice, your voice.
When you think of the grievance does it make you feel light and fluffy inside or does it feel like a heavy pit in your stomach? Heavy? Then there is something there that might be unresolved and unforgiven. It’s not a right or wrong here its just a choice. Do you want to continue to have this grievance affect your body and your life?
The heavy pit in your stomach may be an indicator that there is some energetic and physical contracting going on. This situation may create some tension in your speaking and your singing voice. The vocal instrument is systemic meaning your thoughts, feelings, belief systems, energy systems and your body all help to create an outcome when you speak or sing. Do you want the out come to be free, open and expressive or constricted, limited and small? Again it is all just a choice. From my experience though free, open and expressive feels and works a lot better.
So what can you do to let go of these grievances that are halting the possibilities with your voice?
It seems simplistic and you have heard it before, but what would it take to forgive the person who did the grievance?
Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well. (thank you wikipedia)
So a few important things here that stand out, change in attitude and wish offenders well. When you can shift your attitude about the situation you begin to shift the contraction in your body and energy. You will physically feel lighter, your jaw may not feel as clenched and it may be easier to breath. When you wish another well, again, you unlock contraction in your body and energy field. This has a direct impact to open the voice.
Everything is energy. A grievance has a denser energy and distracts you from the greater possibilities of you. That energy sits in your energy field and eventually your body. A more positive attitude and wishing well to someone has a way less denser energy. It has a lighter energy or frequency that feels better in bodies and energy fields and allows you to tap into greater possibilities to open the voice.
What is your knowing? Singing or speaking with a body that is dense and contracted or light and open?
Want to let go of your grievances to have more possibilities with your voice? Here is a question you can play with.
What am I making vital about the upset I am choosing?
When you ask this question don’t look for an answer just become aware of the energy that comes up and then make a conscious and intentional choice to let it go. Let the upset go.
To let the upset go journal can help too. Journal about things you appreciate about the person who the grievance are about even if its as little as the color of their eyes. Then journal about the well wishes you have for them. These simple journaling techniques can lighten the attitude you have around the grievance and not only free you but free your voice. How do I know? I have played with this hundred of times! Getting on stage for me was hard and I tried lots of things to open the voice and feel better on stage. This works like a charm.
An added benefit is that it can give you a sense of oneness that your audience can feel. Connecting you with your audience whether it is with colleagues or a room full of people. How does it get any better then that!?
Some more on forgiveness from one of my favorite teachers:
Know your why and you may tap into your best voice yet!
WHY DO YOU DO WHAT YOU DO?
What is the underlying driving force that keeps you inspired to keep going with what you are doing?
Do you know what your answers are to these two questions?
If not then start taking a deeper look – this may help you find a voice and personal expression that could make all the difference with your business!
When you know your “Why” then you have a tool to get thru any discomfort or shyness.
Your deepest “Why” will give you the extra fuel you may need to keep talking to an audience even though you really want to hide behind a chair.
Take a moment NOW; find a piece of paper and pen; breath; begin writing about your biggest motivating factor. These may be things like: to provide for my children, to bring peace to the planet, to help people out of suffering, to contribute to humanity thru music. Whatever it is write it down, get familiar with it and know it!
When you have this “Why” in tact then you have an anchor that will prevent you from running away whenever you get uncomfortable or scared. When you are sharing your message in front of an audience, You will get uncomfortable, You will get wobbly, you will feel fear. However, if you always keep with your deepest “Why” then you can allow the discomfort to pass on thru like a passing wave.
You have a mission and your ” Why” will keep you on coarse leaving the fear, anxiety and discomfort as insignificant.
Focusing on Fear and discomfort can ruin a public appearance and can prevent you from engaging with your audience. Tune into your “Why” and see your best voice come forth!