Access Your Voice -Let Go Of Your Personality!!

Access Your Voice let go of your personality Have you ever noticed that who you think you are and the points of view you have about yourself, about what is right and wrong and about what is good and bad predict what you are willing to be and act out in your life?  There is a more potent way to express yourself in your reality and with your work.

Your personality is getting in the way of your voice!

                         Let go of your personality!

What if these points of view that are running your life and determining your expression were strategies you developed a long time ago to survive your family and your school life. What if these strategies are out dated and there is a more potent and more expressive way to live?

What if I told you the voice you are using right now today is actually the voice of a 5 year old or an 8 year old or a 13 year old?   Have you gained awareness and wisdom thru the years that are being squashed and unheard because of strong points of view that you established way back when?

What if it is way more potent and efficient to tune in to what is required with the situation in the present moment. Would you be willing to be and do what ever it takes to be a contribution to your client? Or do you think your 5 year old self has client relations in your grown up business covered?

How do you choose something different:

Your vocal expression and communication with others can be a tell tale sign of where you are functioning from in your life.  Vocal awareness can give you information as to whether you are functioning from the present moment or a past strategy.  Functioning from the present moment requires that you be extremely present with the energetics in the room with out referring back to a past situation to figure out how to react and communicate. Two questions you can use to get clear about what is required in the present moment are:

What is required here?

                           What can I be or do to be the biggest contribution here?

These questions will keep you in the present moment. These questions will give some ah ha possibilities to try. These questions do not give you concrete answers but they do inform you as to what to be or do next, given that you are willing to let go of your personality to express what is required.

For example, If you are someone who has a point of view about cussing and being loud or aggressive, you may be missing out on part of the rainbow of vocal expression that could be effective in a certain moment.

Now this is not permission to go and let out all your aggression on a client or your child or a friend . You see if you become aware that a more stern or aggressive approach is what may be required, you do it with no attachment to anger or negative feelings, you do it as a strategy.  To do this and use your voice in this effective way, what would it take to come from awareness rather then your personality, points of view and feelings. It’s putting your personality self aside and being willing to be the energy that will contribute to the person to create the most change.

Vise Versa, if your personality is stern, go – getter and no frills would you be willing to put that aside and voice your self with the tenderness that may be required?

Are you willing to use your voice in a way that would be the biggest contribution and create the most change?  Yes, you may  receive judgment, yes you may feel confused at first and yes you may see yourself and the reality around you change, including the freedom you have with your voice.


Want To Be Happy? Start Singing!

I’ve noticed thru the years that many people have a wish to sing yet don’t. I’ve also noticed some people do not have any interest what so ever in singing.

Becoming aware of your resistance or openness to singing can give you a lot of information about where you are holding back and what you are holding back.  Want to be happy? Then start singing.

I propose that whether you want to sing but won’t or whether you have no interest in singing at all that there is a core belief that has robbed you of one of our greatest tools humans have to access joy.  Singing. Want to be happy? Start Singing!

Here are 3 scenarios from the past that keep a lot of people from singing that I’ve heard:

1- My teacher said I couldn’t sing

2- I got laughed at in elementary school when I sang

3- I hated singing in church as a kid


Here are 3 reasons from the present that keep a lot of people from singing:

1- I can’t sing, I’m awful

2- You don’t want to hear me sing, I only sing in the shower or the car

3- Reminds me of church, I want nothing to do with that


Can you see a link from the past to the present? Can you see how some core beliefs that were established from a very young age stole your interest in singing and secretly hid one of the most fun and easiest ways to access your joy?


What I’m curious about is does it really stop at singing or do these core beliefs rob us from receiving joy in other areas of our lives?

We are these amazing embodiments of source energy. Each of us a unique expression that will never happen ever again and here we are unable to express this brilliance.   Year after year buying into the core beliefs of “I’m scared I won’t get it right”, or “I’m anxious I’ll get rejected” or “this or that will always be a bad experience”. These beliefs show up in our work day constantly, in parenting or trying anything new. This inflexibility to create a new reality keeps us in a limited reality and limits our joy immensely in our lives.  If you think you are happy and you don’t sing… Guess what? There is a whole other level of joy you could be experiencing, but you wouldn’t want that or would you?


What I find fascinating is that clearing up resistance to singing can actually clear up resistance to lots of things in your life and you will find some ease, freedom and happiness along the way.


            Humans were meant to sing, just like we were meant to talk, walk, dance, make love, eat etc. 


Want to be happy? My challenge to you is to take a month and start a Happy and Singing Journal.


  • Sing something everyday. Sing several times a day. Sing in front of someone. Sing along with someone. While you sing take notice how you feel. Do you feel good? Do you feel silly? Do you feel bored?  Do you feel anxious?  Track these feelings everyday  and next to the feeling write the question, “What is this?” ( do not answer this question)
  • A question empowers you to open your self up to awareness. After several days of this process above I want you to add another step. Write down what you are aware of  after you write down, “What is this?”. Notice if you become aware of any memories or beliefs you have about your voice, the process of singing or any negative experiences you have had around singing or using your voice.
  • Now begin writing down next to these discoveries what age you were when they came into your life. Was it a very long time ago? Is it possible that it may not still be true?  Would you be willing to create a new story about singing and using your voice?
  • Lastly, what is the new story?  …. and the next day’s new story….. and the next and the next …

You have an opportunity to tell a new story each day about singing?  (You have an opportunity to tell  a new story each day bout your life)


I’m curious are you happier after this month exploration?  

              Do you still have anxiety about singing?

                              Do you have more interest in singing? 

                                               Do you have less anxiety in general? 

I would love to hear about your journey!

All the best to you on your path to happy and singing!





What if Singing Could feel Like Flying?

Our voice is a multifaceted instrument. Like other wind instruments, the voice has an intricate body. However, unlike other wind instruments, the instrument of the voice has a brain with thoughts, a being with awareness and a body that responds to both these elements. To play the instrument of the voice with freedom it takes a bit of fine- tuning on several levels. However, It is worth the work to fine tune and unlock the instrument of the voice because once that journey begins singing begins to feel like what I think flying must feel like!      
To fine-tune our vocal instrument it can be helpful to understand the relationship between the body and the mind. You see the voice is the only instrument that is so intricately connected with the resistance and the contraction of our belief systems, trauma and drama.  The life stuff that we go thru and hold onto affects our body and affects the instrument of our voice. When I first started to play the flute as a preteen I had to bring my flute into get worked on because one of the pads was stuck and I couldn’t get a note out. The instrument of the voice doesn’t have flute pads to mechanically fix but it does have muscles and connective tissue to soften, posture to align and technical memory to establish.                    

By bringing our awareness to the physical sensation we are having, and the thoughts and emotions that seem to be attached to them we are able to “ oil” the instrument of the voice.  To really fine-tune the instrument of the voice we must allow the possibility that our belief systems can lock up our body. The unseen world has a profound effect on the physical world if we let it. What if we are made up of vibration and everything else in the world even our beliefs are made up of vibration? What I have seen is that vibration can affect other vibrations. For example, the opera singer who can break the glass with the vibration of her voice or the experiment of saying LOVE into a glass of water and watching under a microscope the molecules change shape or even the electric stim. machine the physical therapists use to put vibration into a tight or torn muscle to heal it.   Vibration affects our body and vibration can release our body.                                        

Our belief systems and their vibration left untouched can control our lives. They are on a loud speaker and on  a continuous loop in our minds running our lives and our experiences of singing. As we develop our awareness about what is running our lives and our ability to sing, we then can begin to change the loudspeaker contents and its frequency. Instead of singing from a default pattern or habit, we can deliberately release and create our voice.  What if this could create a profound change in our bodies and our voice?  
That is just what I have experienced !

– excerpt from “Happy and Singing: an out of the box approach to freeing your Voice & your life” by Rebecca Abraxas

Can Gratitude Open Your Voice?

Can gratitude open your voice?  In my experience the awareness to that question is a big fat YES!!

In the book ” The Science of Getting Rich” it says, ” the mental attitude of gratitude draws the mind into closer touch with the Source from which all blessings come.” Have you ever noticed that to be true for you? Have you noticed that when you are grateful for all the situations, events, people, thoughts and things in your life your day gets a little better? Its like an alchemical process that turns a crummy moment in to a blessed moment.

I have noticed this magic happen with my singing voice as well. When I feel aligned with my higher self or that “source” part of me, I actually sing better and it feels better to sing. I have often compared singing to what I would imagine flying to feel like. This sensation in singing happens when I am open and free and aligned with the energy of source or spirit or God or higher self or whatever you title that light, open, aware, and allowing part of you. Gratitude helps us align with that part of ourselves. In my experience, It can turn a shut down contracted voice into an open and free voice.

There is something different to a free voice. A voice that sings from the spirit of music herself. I’ve noticed a lot of voices in my life. Ones that have been trained and ones that have not. What I have noticed is that if a voice is free, whether it is trained or not, it sounds like angels are giving you a message. The voice can give you chills, heal something within or inspire greatness. A voice without his freedom does not have this potency to move us from deep within. It is entertaining at best.

Applying gratitude for our lives, our voices, our songs, our bodies even our challenges can transform our voice and our singing experience into a potent gift to all, including ourselves. So create an experiment. For the next month or so think of or write down statements of gratitude before you sing or speak. Does your voice have more openness? Does it feel more free? Do you feel a connectedness to the people in front of you? Do you notice gratitude opening your voice?

Until next time

may you be Happy and Singing !

Rebecca Abraxas

Whole Singing: take the time and make the room

Blog #5 WHOLE SINGING: Take the Time and Make the Room

…as adults we need to give our attention to a side of ourselves that is mystical, cosmic and spiritual

There are lots of ways to play as an adult.  Sometimes, it looks like child’s play.  For example, giving yourself permission to run thru the fall leaves. However, playing as an adult doesn’t always have to look like frolic. It may look like solitude, walks, time with ruins or tarot. It may look like crafting or a retreat. What I am getting at is, somehow, as adults we need to give our attention to a side of ourselves that is mystical, cosmic and spiritual –our higher selves.

It is important we take the time and make the room for this quality of ourselves to flow thru us easefully if we want to sing openly and confidently.  Here is an activity you can do to make room for this quality I am talking about.  Take a moment to think of a “heart word;” meaning a positive feeling word, for example: Love.  Then put the phrase “I am “ in front of it. Sit for 5-20 minutes saying this simple phrase to yourself.  Notice if there is a shift in how you feel in your emotions and in your body.  There is a big possibility that you will feel hopeful, loved, loving, content, peaceful etc.  Simple activities like the above activity can get you on your way to taking the time and making room for your higher self to take over for a little while.  This is what I refer to as Whole Singing.

So take the time to do an exercise like this before you sing and take note of the quality of the sound and the openness from which you are singing.  It will put a big smile on your face!

Blog #4 Whole Singing: Learning to Play again.

BLOG#4 Learning to PLAY again; Whole Singing

So last week I talked about remembering your playful self as a child. Well this week I met someone that wasn’t very playful as a child. After the age of 5 she had to become very responsible and life became serious. I have a feeling this may be the case for many others as we have been in the age of technology, latch-key kids, afterschool activities and Academics. What I mean by that is many of us may have grown up with well intentioned parents who thought that play was a waste of time or who needed to work so enrolled us in afterschool activities or who thought that learning to read by age 6 was more important then growing your imagination. Play IS the most important “work” a child can do for her development.

Through play we allow spirit to inspire our human experience.

When children play they are creating a bridge to the world of their imagination and to the world of spirit. If this bridge is not established in childhood, then as adults we can really suffer and shut down a lot of our potential. There is a saying: “ we are spirits, having a human experience”. Through play we allow spirit to inspire our human experience. This creates trust, creativity and a knowingness. This also creates the ability to flow easefully through life; it creates clarity and a sense of wholeness and oneness.

Now what if you had these components intact in your life right now?  Do you think singing would come a bit easier?  When I have talked to people who have a challenge with finding their authentic voice and sharing it in front of others, they shared with me that they have anxiety of being in front of others, that they don’t trust their body to let out the right sound and that they have a fear of not being accepted. When anxiety, fear and distrust rule our lives, not only may we have a challenging time singing but we may have challenges in many other areas of our lives. My solution: learn how to play.

Find a child you know and surrender to her world for a little while.

So if you find yourself not having a memory of what it felt like to play as a child. If you feel like your “bridge” may not have been fully built. I encourage you, actually I plead for you to take time to play.  Go build a leaf pile, giggle and jump on in.  See where that takes you.  Find a child you know and surrender to her world for a little while. Start to feel your connection to life’s greater forces again. When you start to feel this, allow yourself to play while your singing by making up a fun melody to sing, sing kid’s songs you remember, or put on your favorite Pandora station to sing and dance along to!  I promise this will begin to strengthen your “bridge” and your singing.

Whole Singing – our Playful Conversation with Music

Blog #3 Whole singing Series – our Playful conversation with Music.

I think we can all remember a time in our childhood, when we were overtaken with the flow of our own play and imagination. Being a twin, my sister and I had many moments like that. Our world of play was effortless and seamless. Looking back I can see now how that world of play my sister and I engaged in was so very important to the work we both do as adults. It was that practice of flowing with my imagination and the practice of allowing creativity that lended itself to my conversation with Music.

Imagination and music seem to have the same source- our higher self, Great Spirit, life force…God.

There is a wonderful book, “The Music Lesson: a spiritual search for growth through music” by Victor l. Wooten. In this book he encourages us to look at our relationship and conversation with music.  I immediately related it back to my childhood and my conversation with play.  Imagination and music seem to have the same source- our higher self, Great Spirit, life force…God. My understanding is that it is all the same thing and when we trust and allow that force to come thru, then we play, we pray, we converse with music. We sing!

many of the greatest spiritual teachers, scientific minds and
musicians were brave enough
to stand by themselves and share their insights.

In our modern society of separating all the parts to make a whole we have done ourselves a disservice. We have become perfectionists and become very self-conscious. We have become fearful. We have taken on the attitude of “I must be taught; I must have a class if I am to know anything.”  This is very interesting because if you look through history, it is the greatest out-of-the-box thinkers who have evolved our world the most. They had to trust what was coming through them.  Thankfully, many of the greatest spiritual teachers, scientific minds and musicians were brave enough to stand by themselves and share their insights. That was not learned from a book or a class.

Give yourself permission to have a playful conversation with music

My question to myself and to you reading this is, are we brave enough? Are we brave enough to go back in time and remember the feeling we had as a child of that easeful play? Are we willing to bring that feeling and flow into our conversation with music and allow and trust what comes. My challenge for you is to go PLAY an instrument or go sing. Do not go PRACTICE. Go Play. In your play as a child did you judge it did you analyze it. I think the answer would be no. But for some of us this ease of play is very hard to tap into. Therefore, make sure you do this on a regular basis. Give yourself permission to have a playful conversation with music for say 20 minutes a day. See what comes. What sounds, what words.

Once you have become familiar with your relationship with play, the music follows and so may your singing. The feeling you will feel when you come from this place while singing is that of the easefulness of childhood play. It is a wonderful feeling. This is what I have come to know as Whole Singing.

Ecstasy and singing – WHOLE SINGING (BLOG SERIES #1)

One of the most easeful ways to feel ecstasy in my life is through singing. I feel so good when I am singing. For years I compared it to what I thought flying might feel like. Then yesterday, I found a quote that said just that, “If I can not fly, then let me sing” -Sephen Sondheim.

After doing some research I realize that many people feel this same ecstatic feeling as I do when singing. However, thru the years I have also come across people that really wish and yearn to be “able” to sing but feel they cannot. My reply is, WHY?  The sad truth is that many people’s voices, and breath for that matter, are locked up inside them.

Use your reactions, inspirations, excuses, doubts and defenses…

I can’t think of a more uncomfortable feeling then to be trapped in our own body and mind, yearning to do something, yet unable. Singing with ease took time for me. The experience of unlocking my voice is one I do know well. While some of my fears still trap me in other areas of my life, I have no more reserve with singing and performing. This is what I would love to share with you.  My journey to ecstasy through singing. With any journey, there are mountains to climb and beautiful sites to see.  There is perseverance and joy.  There are tears and doubts.  There is growth.  There are road blocks and new directions and so on.

To get on the map for this journey, start here-
What is your reaction to this comment: “If you can breath, if you can talk, then you can SING.”

Use your reactions, inspirations, excuses, doubts and defenses that come up with this quote; list each one.  Really sit with your list; are there some negative beliefs in there that are defining you or that are caging you in?

The next quote : ” What ever you can imagine, you can do.”

Now do the same process.  Usually our reactions to these two quotes will reveal a lot.  The journey has begun.  Now go SING!  I’ll fill you in on some more tips next week. Until then, enjoy YOU.

Rebecca Abraxas