Your past stories and trauma can sometimes give you a lead to where you can contribute the most in business. However, having your trauma on the forefront of the present moment can get in the way of your ability to contribute, as well as the voice you are communicating with.
Don’t let yesterday’s trauma be today’s business voice.
I was speaking to my neighbor the other day who is a psychotherapist. We were exchanging stories about the different modalities we use to assist our clients. As I was speaking about a process I do with clients called Access Bars, which helps with social anxiety and staying present with their businesses, she mentioned the outcomes seemed similar to a process she does called EMDR.
She mentioned that EMDR assists clients to take a past trauma that they are still living with in the present moment and put it back into the memory part of their brain so they stop reacting from a far yesterday’s trauma.
Access Bars seems to have these same results. While Access Bars Practitioners have had success in working with extreme cases of PTSD and depression, I have also seen Access Bars give people the ability to live with more presence in their lives and not react from more simple past childhood stories and trauma. This is extremely helpful with people who suffer from shyness, social anxiety and fear of public speaking.
Our traumas do not have to be as severe as someone with PTSD to interfere with our self- confidence, empowerment and charisma, all of which are essential to an influential business voice.
I recently was working with a client in a health care sound therapy class. One of the exercises I was doing with each individual was to have them sing their name. When I came to one woman, she said in a soft wobbly voice, “No, I’m not allowed to sing in class.” Being curious about this statement, I asked her how old she was when that was said to her. She immediately said 8 years old. This women was now about 85! She had been living with this inhibition and this compromised voice for 77 years!
Did this woman have PTSD? Maybe, but probably not. Was this incident for her intense enough to effect her whole life? Seems so.
This is not the first time I have heard a story like this. I have personally heard children, people in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and now 80s tell a similar story, that someone in their childhood told them that they could not sing, that they were being too loud or that they were showing off.
I have always been curious about why a story from childhood could stay with someone and inhibit their self expression throughout their life. Could it be that the energy of the story is stuck in the part of the brain that works with the present moment confusing the individual with what is actually a threat? Could releasing the electromagnetic energy from that story and now belief system in the brain, assist the individual to have more confidence and feel more empowered to speak and share her message in a dynamic way? Is it possible that “smaller” traumatic experiences effect the brain in similar ways as PTSD?
When I see people reacting and living their lives from the effect of a far yesterdays trauma as if it is happening now, especially with feeling uncomfortable with expressing them selves in their heart based businesses, I can’t help think that this is a possibility.
A business voice filled with inhibition and trauma rarely gets a dynamic marketing message across.
What would it take to release yesterday’s trauma out of your voice? Voice technique can only take you so far if the the trauma is still activated in your brain. In my opinion, a process that effects your brain processing such as EMDR or Access Bars along with voice and presence coaching is a potent combination to become an influential, empathetic, confident and empowered voice of your business in the present moment.
Comments? Questions? I would love to respond to them.
Rebecca Abraxas, Voice & Presence Coach